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Empaths and Narcissists

October 7, 2024 / Tony Jarrah / 0 Comments

Life has a way of teaching us lessons, sometimes in the harshest of ways. People come into our lives, and over time, they reveal themselves for who they truly are. These people can be broadly categorized as the takers and the givers, or empaths and narcissists. There are patterns in the way people behave, and once you see those patterns clearly, it becomes impossible to ignore them.

The Takers

If we were to look at people in broad strokes, we might find that they often fall into one of a few categories. First, there are the takers. These are the people who, when given the chance, will grab whatever they can get. They care very little for others and are quick to step over anyone who stands between them and what they want, including those who are close to them. Often, some of them don’t even need what they take—they’ll grab it simply because it’s there. They thrive on seeing others bend to their will.

New Reality

September 30, 2024 / Tony Jarrah / 0 Comments

This blog is very different to my other blogs. Something massive just hit me in this last week of September, 2024. I’m not sure exactly when as I’ve completely lost track of space and time. I’m in a daze. I have lost all my strong, negative emotions, and even the thoughts of such things. I literally feel like my mind is completely empty at the moment. This is very strange and a first for me.

I feel like I am in the middle of a resetting in preparation for a new reality. Stage one of which is a total wipe down, an emptying of everything out. The next stage, lets the dust settle to avoid further trauma or fear, which may lead to resistance. The final stage loads a new version of me into this avatar. As I write this, I feel like I am in stage two. This is very weird.

Resisting Life 2

September 14, 2024 / Tony Jarrah / 0 Comments

Resisting life is not a habit we can stop all at once, but there are clear steps you can take to move in that direction. It’s about shifting your mindset and cultivating practices that help you become more present and accepting of what is.

Resisting Life 1

September 14, 2024 / Tony Jarrah / 0 Comments

A Path to Enlightenment

There is a thought that much of our suffering comes from a lack of enlightenment and from resisting life. This is something that really hits home when you think about it.

Life has a natural flow, like a river moving downstream, and when we resist it, when we try to fight against the current, that’s where the struggle begins.

The more we push back against this perceived struggle—whether it’s through holding on to past pain, refusing to accept change, or resisting the reality of our situation—the harder life seems to get. This is a battle we can never win because life is always moving, always changing. Life is bigger than us. However, there is light at the end of a very long tunnel. When we learn to move with life, instead of against it, things start to shift. We may not always get what we want, but the suffering from resistance softens.

Forgiveness

August 21, 2023 / Tony Jarrah / 0 Comments

People have been telling us for decades that we should forgive others for our sakes, not for others’ sakes. Forgiveness, apparently, is for ourselves. It is there that we will find peace.

For many years the school system has been telling you that if your child is bullied at school he is not permitted to stand up for himself. They say “we don’t tolerate violence”.

The problem is that the bully bullies everyone, every day, and the schools do nothing to stop that bully. I’ve had this discussion with a many principals, teachers, and year coordinators over the years. It is always the same thing, “violence is never OK“. It seems that it is OK for the bully to terrorise all the kids he wants. On the other hand, the victims, are never permitted to defend themselves. because in that case “violence is not OK“.

Surviving Trauma

August 21, 2023 / Tony Jarrah / 0 Comments

I read a quote about surviving trauma that said something like;

“Trauma survivors crave honesty and authenticity.

We’ve had to fight for our ability to think clearly and know who we are.

We aren’t willing to engage with those who don’t honor that.”

My Battle With Fear

February 12, 2017 / Tony Jarrah / 2 Comments

If you don’t mind, I’d like to tell you a little story about my battle with the darkness of fear and depression.

It was so bad for me that depression, anxiety, and stress had taken complete control over me. This state lasted nearly a decade. I was suicidal for most of that time. I had always suffered from depression (40 years), but the last ten of those years were the worst.

It all started to change when I was riding my very powerful sports motorbike from Noosa to the Gold Coast. The ride was about 2.5 to 3 hours by freeway.

Stress, Anxiety or Depression

January 17, 2017 / Tony Jarrah / 0 Comments

There are three states we can find ourselves in – the past, the present, or the future. If we don’t manage our thoughts and emotions, each can offer stress, anxiety, or depression.

(The following description is based on having negative thoughts, as having positive thoughts won’t normally be a problem.)

When we spend too much time in the future, we worry, this brings about some degree of stress and anxiety because we FEAR a potentially negative outcome. If we spend too much time in this state, our stress can be debilitating, and the repercussions can be lethal at the extreme. In the less extreme, being a worrier, or stressful, can give us a very unpleasant 20, 30, 40 or 50 years of life. Continuous and long term stress is a habit.

Life Is Against Us

July 16, 2016 / Tony Jarrah / 0 Comments

I am sure that we’ve all been through hard times. At times we feel that life is against us, that perhaps God is against us! We feel that maybe we have done something in this, or in a previous life, that has come back to bite us in the butt. We must be paying for past sins. After all, we’re not bad people, right? So why are we having such a hard time?

We can go years feeling like this. For some people, it’s a lifetime of pain and misery. But why? We don’t know. So we suffer in silence. Sometimes not in silence. We fight it every day. We get angry, maybe bitter, stressed, depressed, then resigned, perpetuating our pain and suffering. But why?

The Guy in the Glass – by Dale Wimbrow, (c) 1934

February 29, 2016 / Tony Jarrah / 0 Comments

Many years ago I was fortunate enough to be shown this poem by and elderly public speaker I met. I can’t remember his name as it was nearly thirty years ago, but I never forgot about this poem by Dale Wimbrow, written circa 1934, called The Guy In The Glass. I hope you enjoy it.

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