Resisting life is not a habit we can stop all at once, but there are clear steps you can take to move in that direction. It’s about shifting your mindset and cultivating practices that help you become more present and accepting of what is.
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A Path to Enlightenment
There is a thought that much of our suffering comes from a lack of enlightenment and from resisting life. This is something that really hits home when you think about it.
Life has a natural flow, like a river moving downstream, and when we resist it, when we try to fight against the current, that’s where the struggle begins.
The more we push back against this perceived struggle—whether it’s through holding on to past pain, refusing to accept change, or resisting the reality of our situation—the harder life seems to get. This is a battle we can never win because life is always moving, always changing. Life is bigger than us. However, there is light at the end of a very long tunnel. When we learn to move with life, instead of against it, things start to shift. We may not always get what we want, but the suffering from resistance softens.
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When you are thinking like a raccoon, the first image that might pop into your mind is a mischievous little creature with its bandit-like mask, rummaging through garbage cans or sneaking around in the night. But if we take a closer look at how raccoons operate, there’s a lot we can learn from these crafty animals, especially when it comes to achieving success.
So, what does it mean to think like a raccoon? It’s about embracing adaptability, curiosity, and persistence—all traits that can lead us to success in our own lives.
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People have been telling us for decades that we should forgive others for our sakes, not for others’ sakes. Forgiveness, apparently, is for ourselves. It is there that we will find peace.
For many years the school system has been telling you that if your child is bullied at school he is not permitted to stand up for himself. They say “we don’t tolerate violence”.
The problem is that the bully bullies everyone, every day, and the schools do nothing to stop that bully. I’ve had this discussion with a many principals, teachers, and year coordinators over the years. It is always the same thing, “violence is never OK“. It seems that it is OK for the bully to terrorise all the kids he wants. On the other hand, the victims, are never permitted to defend themselves. because in that case “violence is not OK“.
I read a quote about surviving trauma that said something like;
“Trauma survivors crave honesty and authenticity.
We’ve had to fight for our ability to think clearly and know who we are.
We aren’t willing to engage with those who don’t honor that.”
Continue readingIf you don’t mind, I’d like to tell you a little story about my battle with the darkness of fear and depression.
It was so bad for me that depression, anxiety, and stress had taken complete control over me. This state lasted nearly a decade. I was suicidal for most of that time. I had always suffered from depression (40 years), but the last ten of those years were the worst.
It all started to change when I was riding my very powerful sports motorbike from Noosa to the Gold Coast. The ride was about 2.5 to 3 hours by freeway.
There are three states we can find ourselves in – the past, the present, or the future. If we don’t manage our thoughts and emotions, each can offer stress, anxiety, or depression.
(The following description is based on having negative thoughts, as having positive thoughts won’t normally be a problem.)
When we spend too much time in the future, we worry, this brings about some degree of stress and anxiety because we FEAR a potentially negative outcome. If we spend too much time in this state, our stress can be debilitating, and the repercussions can be lethal at the extreme. In the less extreme, being a worrier, or stressful, can give us a very unpleasant 20, 30, 40 or 50 years of life. Continuous and long term stress is a habit.
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I am sure that we’ve all been through hard times. At times we feel that life is against us, that perhaps God is against us! We feel that maybe we have done something in this, or in a previous life, that has come back to bite us in the butt. We must be paying for past sins. After all, we’re not bad people, right? So why are we having such a hard time?
We can go years feeling like this. For some people, it’s a lifetime of pain and misery. But why? We don’t know. So we suffer in silence. Sometimes not in silence. We fight it every day. We get angry, maybe bitter, stressed, depressed, then resigned, perpetuating our pain and suffering. But why?
Many years ago I was fortunate enough to be shown this poem by and elderly public speaker I met. I can’t remember his name as it was nearly thirty years ago, but I never forgot about this poem by Dale Wimbrow, written circa 1934, called The Guy In The Glass. I hope you enjoy it.
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